Lyrics of Reason

Lyrical musings about relationships!

Song of Inspiration: Flying Without Wings by Rueben Studdard February 24, 2011

Filed under: Change — LyricsofReason @ 4:40 AM
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A Dream Deferred

by Langston Hughes

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up 
like a raisin in the sun? 
Or fester like a sore– 
And then run? 
Does it stink like rotten meat? 
Or crust and sugar over– 
like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags 
like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

I have had writer’s block and editor’s block.  I heard songs and was inspired to write.  Then I sat in front of my MacBook but I couldn’t write what I felt because the words just wouldn’t come out.  Not to mention editing previously written columns.  I read the columns and got ideas of how to make it better but…you guessed it! Nothing came out that was worth writing.  **Sigh** So after numerous attempts I thought I would just get my mind off writing in hopes that I would get back to writing.  Go figure.  So I organized my music list and bought songs.  Still nothing…I had no inspiration to write.  Then I heard Ruben’s “Flying Without Wings” and I came to terms with my issue before he completed the first verse.  “Everybody’s looking for that something, one thing that makes it all complete.”  That’s me and that’s my issue!!! I am missing my wings.



Song of Inspiration: Stay with You by John Legend January 15, 2011

Filed under: Change,True Love — LyricsofReason @ 8:07 PM

Lyrical Snippet

Oh I’ll stay with you through the ups and the downs

Oh I’ll stay with you when no one else is around

And when the dark clouds arrive

I will stay by your side

I know we’ll be alright

I will stay with you

2010 has come and gone.  It is now 2011 and you have decided that  “A Change Is Gonna Come”.  Among the popular resolutions, aside from saving money and getting fit, is love.  People resolve to fall in love, treasure the ones they are in love with or get serious about love in general.  But to fulfill the “love resolution”, one must work at having a great relationship with their mate. But…what is the secret to a successful relationship?

I don’t think there is one thing.  I believe a successful relationship encompasses several things including communication, passion for life and each other, emotional connection, physical attraction, love and friendship.  Personally, commitment ranks high on my list.  Specifically, commitment by both parties to preserve the very thing they have built together.  Anything less is not good enough.  Why enter a relationship, get lives and emotions entangled, if neither party doesn’t intend work it out when the going gets tough?

A relationship is a beautiful thing, but it is not always easy.  Like a roller coaster, you can bet money that there will be ups and downs.  There will probably be times when you wonder why you got on for the ride.  But just like a rollercoaster, the ride can be exhilarating and worth every twist and turn.  Why get on the ride with a person that shows hesitation for what may lie ahead?  An even better question is why would you stay with someone who isn’t up for the challenge? Simply, find and keep the person who is willing to stay with you through it all.  Find a mate who demonstrates that they “will stay with you through the ups and the downs…when the dark clouds arise [they] will stay by your side.”


Song of Inspiration: Insomnia by Jill Scott December 27, 2010

Filed under: Change — LyricsofReason @ 7:03 PM

Has he managed to turn you from a woman of substance into… a brick flying, calling too damn much, crying … and spying woman?” With the insight of a psychic, Jill Scott sings about insomnia induced by her lover’s inaction to consider her feelings and treat her with respect.  Like some women, Jill is singing about being home, laying in bed and wishing up a storm.  She is wishing for her man to come back home.  She then wishes that he would call and say he missed her.  It gets to the point where Jill settles and is just wishing for him to call and say hi.  Jill wishes until she wished the night away.  Now she is not only miserable but she is physically drained and forced to go to work.  How many of us can relate, whether through personal experience or a friend’s experience?

Jill Scott’s question reminded me of discussions I had with my girlfriends.  These discussions usually came after we spent too much time analyzing episodes of Sex and the City, Girlfriends or The Game.  The typical episode that would send us into frenzy would involve a female character acting in a manner she knew was inappropriate or pathetic but she did it anyway.  Why?  Because her lover, the one who should be making her happy, the one she holds in high esteem, hurt her ever so deep.  She is on a downward spiral because the “he” in their lives hurt them bad.  One memorable episode that got our group discussion going is the episode of The Game where Melanie crawls into bed with Malik just to spite her ex.  [Sidenote: I am so happy that new episodes are returning in January on BET.  Make sure you stay tuned!]  (more…)


Song of Inspiration: Ring the Alarm by Beyonce December 3, 2010

Filed under: Change,Complaining — LyricsofReason @ 4:58 AM
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I know what you are thinking.  Cooke…that’s my jam or Cooke…I knew you were going throw Beyonce up in the mix sooner or later.  My response: You know!  Regardless of your thoughts about her, her family, her relationship or her talent, she does sing about situations that we can relate to.  Now just for a moment…think about the words of the song.  In particular focus on the part where she says… “She gonna profit everything I taught if let you go…can’t let you go…darn if I let you go.”  Is she talking about her lover or a poodle that she finally got house-broken?

Sometimes women focus too much on how much work they put into a relationship that women stay in dead end relationships.  We often tell anyone who encourages us to leave that “I know he does this but I will be darned if I leave so the next chick can reap the benefits.”  Women say these statements with a straight face even though their female intuition is screaming that their man is a dog.  (more…)


Song of Inspiration: A Change Gonna Come by Charles Gator Moore September 11, 2010

Filed under: Change,Complaining — LyricsofReason @ 9:58 PM
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I am guilty!  I am guilty of complaining, hoping, wishing, and praying for a change.  In an effort to not appear ungrateful, I say prayers of thanks because things could always be worse.  At the same time, I ask for things to change but fail to take action in order to make the change happen.  Until now, I have fooled myself into thinking I am doing all I can do to make the changes happen.  Well, like a “Matlock aha” moment I realized that there is more I can do and must do.  You know what else? I realized that there are many people, women particularly, who may be just as guilty as I am!

In 2009 you were in a relationship that wasn’t going the way you wanted.  Maybe it was real bad, maybe it was just aiight.  Whatever the issue, you decided that you wanted a change.  In fact, you told yourself, “Self, a change is gonna come!”  Well January 1, 2010 has come and gone and things are the same.  My question to you: how will the rest of 2010 turn out? For me, I can tell you that I am ready and willing to do the work it takes to make the changes happen! (more…)