Lyrics of Reason

Lyrical musings about relationships!

Song of Inspiration: Ring the Alarm by Beyonce December 3, 2010

Filed under: Change,Complaining — LyricsofReason @ 4:58 AM
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I know what you are thinking.  Cooke…that’s my jam or Cooke…I knew you were going throw Beyonce up in the mix sooner or later.  My response: You know!  Regardless of your thoughts about her, her family, her relationship or her talent, she does sing about situations that we can relate to.  Now just for a moment…think about the words of the song.  In particular focus on the part where she says… “She gonna profit everything I taught if let you go…can’t let you go…darn if I let you go.”  Is she talking about her lover or a poodle that she finally got house-broken?

Sometimes women focus too much on how much work they put into a relationship that women stay in dead end relationships.  We often tell anyone who encourages us to leave that “I know he does this but I will be darned if I leave so the next chick can reap the benefits.”  Women say these statements with a straight face even though their female intuition is screaming that their man is a dog.  (more…)


Song of Inspiration: You Should Have Told Me by Kelly Price October 3, 2010

Filed under: Complaining — LyricsofReason @ 5:21 PM
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Don’t you hate those moments of clarity?  You know…those moments when you realize that you are not the perfect mate.  When you realize that despite your great qualities, you can be nagging, rude, just darn difficult.  But despite it all, HE loves you.  I am not talking about God, although this post is applicable to him as well.  I am talking about the special man in your life, your boo.  The one who makes you feel special inside, the one who makes you laugh when you feel like crying.  That special guy that gives you a kiss goodnight and says he loves you despite the unlovable things you may have said and did.

Well, I recently had that moment of clarity.  Yes, I must admit it because I cannot type a lie!  One particular Sunday, while babysitting our godchildren, I was particularly difficult with HIM.  My mood was funky because I allowed little things, things that didn’t matter, to annoy me.   Instead of sharing my feelings, I pouted like a two-year old.  Sad, huh?  Anyway, when the kids went to bed, I did everything I could to avoid evaluating my behavior.  But it didn’t work.  So I decided to distract myself by listening to music and Kelly Price’s song came on.

You should’ve told me I wasn’t wild enough, you should’ve told me I didn’t smile enough.”  In the song, “You Should’ve Told Me”, Ms. Kelly P. sings about all the things her guy should have told her and even accuses him of leading her on.  Every time I hear the song, I think “Huh?!?”  Why should he have told her the things she already knew or should have known?  Okay…so what does this song have to do with my moment of clarity.  Well….a lot.  Should I wait for him to bring up my bad attitude / funky mood or use my moment of clarity as a tool for evaluation and self-improvement? Hmmmm….  (more…)


Song of Inspiration: A Change Gonna Come by Charles Gator Moore September 11, 2010

Filed under: Change,Complaining — LyricsofReason @ 9:58 PM
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I am guilty!  I am guilty of complaining, hoping, wishing, and praying for a change.  In an effort to not appear ungrateful, I say prayers of thanks because things could always be worse.  At the same time, I ask for things to change but fail to take action in order to make the change happen.  Until now, I have fooled myself into thinking I am doing all I can do to make the changes happen.  Well, like a “Matlock aha” moment I realized that there is more I can do and must do.  You know what else? I realized that there are many people, women particularly, who may be just as guilty as I am!

In 2009 you were in a relationship that wasn’t going the way you wanted.  Maybe it was real bad, maybe it was just aiight.  Whatever the issue, you decided that you wanted a change.  In fact, you told yourself, “Self, a change is gonna come!”  Well January 1, 2010 has come and gone and things are the same.  My question to you: how will the rest of 2010 turn out? For me, I can tell you that I am ready and willing to do the work it takes to make the changes happen! (more…)