My friend called me to vent about the new guy in her life. She said “I want him to call me because I am on his mind. I want him to send me flowers. I want him to want to be with me. I just…I just want it.” All I heard was Etta James soulful voice. My friend then asked “Am I crazy?” I wanted to say “Girl noooo! All you want is that Sunday kind of love.” But before I could answer her question, she says what too many of us have said “BUT…he told me he isn’t ready for a relationship and that’s okay.” Now I wanted to say, “Yup, you are crazy!” Of course I didn’t say that. I nodded because I understood.
A single woman is a lot like an unemployed individual. The single woman and the unemployed individual know they deserve the best and both want the best (a good man and a career, respectively). However, due to the lack of supply, increased demand and frustration in finding it, both individuals settle for whatever is available. Now I am going to ask you a question that I recently asked another individual conducting a job search: Are you settling? (more…)